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Trauma Therapy and Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD)


Trauma Resolution
Emotional trauma is defined as any distressing experience that causes emotional shock and may have long-lasting psychological effects. Trauma resolution is accomplished when the painful memory or event no longer triggers anxious reactions or distorted thoughts. At Parker Counseling Service, all therapists are trained to assist clients in identifying past traumatic experiences that may contribute to present dysfunction. The goal of treatment is to assist the client in desensitizing and processing painful experiences in order to integrate the event into their life story. This is accomplished through individual talk and experiential therapies (including hypnotherapy and EMDR) as well as experiential groups such as Psychodrama, Anger and Forgiveness, and GET.

Types of Trauma
Professionals frequently refer to two types of trauma's, "Large T" and "Small t" events.

Many persons easily associate with "Large T" trauma events such as natural disasters, combat, and accidents, leading to PTSD.

"Small t" events are more common experiences that can make us feel as failures, humiliated, unsafe, unloved, or without control or hope. For children, they can include being bullied, excluded, or even falling off a bicycle or ski's. Events that seem unimportant to us as adults can be devastating to children and have long lasting effects, that without therapy may go uncovered well into adult life and patterns.

Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD)
While most people associate PTSD with War Veterans, Firefighters, Police, and Emergency Medical Technicians, there are many other sources and people suffering from PTSD. In many cases, the persons suffering do not realize their symptoms as PTSD, or may not realize that there are now effective treatments that can dramatically reduce their nightmares, anger, reactivity, and emotional pain they may have tried to bury themselves for years. Many clients who have suffered for years are amazed at the success rates that newer treatments such as EMDR and Hypnotherapy can provide either separately in combination with other treatments.

Research has shown that three 90 minute sessions of EMDR treatment eliminates PTSD symptoms in 80-100% of civilians with a single trauma experience. When civilians have experienced multiple traumas, more treatment may be needed. A randomized study to evaluate EMDR with combat veterans reported that after 12 sessions, 78% of the veterans in the study no longer had PTSD.

Department of Veterans Affairs & Department of Defense, Washington, DC (2004) -  VA/DoD Clinical Practice Guideline for the Management of Post-Traumatic Stress.
EMDR was one of four therapies given the highest level of evidence and recommended for treatment of PTSD.

Read "War Time Coping Strategies" by Dr. Desiree Del Monte and Susan A. Davis, ThM

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Symptoms and Coping with PTSD

Coping with PTSD in family members can be a difficult thing to do. The effect of PTSD on family can be great. Studies have shown that families where a parent has PTSD are characterized by more anxiety, unhappiness, marital problems, and behavioral problems among children in the family as compared to families where a parent does not have PTSD.

This finding is not entirely surprising. PTSD symptoms can cause a person to act in ways that may be hard for family members to understand. Their behavior may appear erratic and strange or be upsetting.

The Role of the Family

The family can either positively or negatively impact on a loved one's PTSD symptoms. The first step in living with and helping a loved one with PTSD is learning about the symptoms of PTSD and understanding how these symptoms may influence behavior.

Re-Experiencing Symptoms

The re-experiencing symptoms of PTSD include the following:

  • Frequently having upsetting thoughts or memories about a traumatic event.
  • Having recurrent nightmares.
  • Acting or feeling as though the traumatic event were happening again, sometimes called a "flashback."
  • Having very strong feelings of distress when reminded of the traumatic event.
  • Being physically responsive, such as experiencing a surge in your heart rate or sweating, to reminders of the traumatic event.

Thoughts and memories about a traumatic event can easily be triggered or brought up. Many things can serve as a trigger such as certain words, sights, sounds, or smells. As a result, a person with PTSD may not always appear "present." Frequent thoughts may interfere with concentration or the ability to follow a conversation.

In addition, because thoughts and memories about a traumatic event can easily be triggered, a person with PTSD may quickly and easily become upset. To the person without PTSD, these experiences of distress or anxiety may appear to come completely "out of the blue."

Some people with PTSD may also act as if the traumatic event is occurring again. They may regard you as a completely different person. When this is happening, the person with PTSD does not necessarily know what they are doing, as they are in a dissociative state.

Avoidance Symptoms

The avoidance symptoms of PTSD include the following:

  • Making an effort to avoid thoughts, feelings, or conversations about the traumatic event.
  • Making an effort to avoid places or people that remind you of the traumatic event.
  • Having a difficult time remembering important parts of the traumatic event.
  • A loss of interest in important, once positive, activities.
  • Feeling distant from others.
  • Experiencing difficulties having positive feelings, such as happiness or love.
  • Feeling as though your life may be cut short.

A person with PTSD may go out of his way to avoid certain people, places, or activities. This is not because the person is no longer interested in these people, places, or activities. Instead, it's because these things somehow trigger thoughts and memories about the traumatic event.

Family members may also feel as though their loved one with PTSD is emotionally cut-off or distant. This is not a personal choice on the part of the person with PTSD. People with PTSD have been found to experience something called emotional numbing. As the name implies, emotional numbing refers to the inability to have certain emotions. Emotional numbing may interfere with a person's ability to experience love and joy.

Hyperarousal Symptoms

The hyperarousal symptoms of PTSD include:

  • Having a difficult time falling or staying asleep.
  • Feeling more irritable or having outbursts of anger.
  • Having difficulty concentrating.
  • Feeling constantly "on guard" or like danger is lurking around every corner.
  • Being "jumpy" or easily startled.

A person with PTSD may always feel as though he (and potentially their family) are in danger. He may be in a constant state of readiness. As a result, he may be more on edge or irritable. Some people with PTSD (especially people with PTSD due to combat) may also decide that certain places or situations are unsafe such as subways or busy, crowded places. These places or situations would then be avoided at all costs.

What Can a Family Do?

A family can do a number of things to cope with a loved one's PTSD. First, it is important to understand that the loved one's behavior does not necessarily indicate his true feelings. That is, he may want to go out with friends and family but he is too afraid of bringing up upsetting thoughts and memories. It is important for family members to understand their loved ones symptoms and the impact of those symptoms on behavior.

A family also needs to know what leads to those symptoms. That is, family members need to know their loved one's triggers. For example, if you know that the nightly news on the TV always triggers your loved one's PTSD symptoms, you may want to schedule other activities during that time so there is no way that your loved one will contact those triggers.

Family members may also need to change their routines based on a loved one's symptoms. For example, if your loved one tends to have nightmares, try to figure out a way to wake him up without touching him. Some people with PTSD may respond as though they are being attacked.

Finally, support groups and/or couples counseling may be a good way to learn how to communicate with your loved one, as well as cope with his PTSD symptoms. They may also help you find the best way to encourage your loved one to get help if he hasn't already.

The symptoms of PTSD are the body's attempt to cope with extreme stress. Recovery from PTSD can be a long and difficult road. A family's support and understanding can be invaluable on your loved one's journey to recovery.

Jordan, B.K., Marmar, C.R., Fairbank, J.A., Schlenger, W.E., Kulka, R.A., Hough, R.L., & Weiss, D.S. (1992). Problems in families of male Vietnam veterans with posttraumatic stress disorder. Journal of Consulting and Clinical Psychology, 60, 916-926.


The EMDR technique is most effective when used in conjunction with other traditional methods of therapy in treating these and many other emotional disorders.
EMDR therapy can help clients replace their anxiety and fear with positive images, emotions and thoughts.

What are the Symptoms that can be helped by EMDR?

  • High anxiety and lack of motivation
  • Depression
  • Memories of a traumatic experience
  • Fear of being alone
  • Unrealistic feelings of guilt and shame
  • Fear of being alone
  • Difficulty in trusting others
  • Relationship problems

What is the History of EMDR?
Since the initial medical study in 1989 positive therapeutic results with EMDR have been reported with the following populations:

  • People who have witnessed or been a victim to a disaster (rape, accidents, earth quakes, fires, murder, gang related violence)
  • Clients suffering from PTSD (post traumatic stress disorder)
  • Suffers of panic disorders and anxiety attacks
  • Suffers of phobias
  • Chemically dependent clients
  • Persons exposed to excess loss ( loss by death, divorce, loss of a house by fire)
  • Crime victims and police officers who were once overcome with violent memories
  • Accident or burn victims

Although a fairly new therapeutic technique, EMDR is meeting with much success all across the county. EMDR is a natural process. The client and the therapist become partners on a journey to help move traumatic and blocked energy. Together they work to transcend and free up the energy, so the client can return to their natural grounded state of being. The goal of this work is to help the client heal, so they can return to their life in peace.

Department of Veterans Affairs & Department of Defense, Washington, DC (2004) -  VA/DoD Clinical Practice Guideline for the Management of Post-Traumatic Stress.
EMDR was one of four therapies given the highest level of evidence and recommended for treatment of PTSD.

How do I know if EMDR is right for me?
There are a number factors to consider when evaluating the appropriateness of EMDR therapy for a client's particular situation and history. During your initial consultation with a trained EMDR therapist, all the relevant factors will be discussed in full to help you both come to a decision to move forward with EMDR.